Due to an endocrine disorder, I was never supposed to be able to have children. In those years of heartbreak, waiting, and never-ending disappointments, I made a decision:
I was going to put my identity in Christ and not in motherhood.
When I surrendered my life to Jesus, my identity changed.
6 For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin— 7 because anyone who has died has been set free from sin. ~Romans 6:6
No longer would I have to adhere to what the world tells me I’m supposed to be.
I refused to feel like I didn’t measure up to the “ideal” Christian woman mold.
When I finally became a mother, my identity was still firmly planted only in Jesus.
It’s misguided and even spiritually dangerous to put our identity in something that could be lost, fail us, or is unpredictable.
Similar my story, there are many people who struggle with infertility issues, medical conditions, or other circumstances that may prevent them from having children. God would never want us to put our identity in something as wavering and inconsistent as the ability to bear children.
Fatherhood or motherhood is not our identity.
Our identity is also not in being married.
God has called some people to remain single. Some people are divorced. Some people are widowed.
Being married or single is not our identity.
Our identity is only in Jesus and who He says we are.
9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. 10 Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy. ~1 Peter 2:9-10
Our physical appearance changes as we age, our followers on social media will flux, the amount in our bank account will ebb and flow from one season to the next, and our career or title could be undone in a heart beat.
Why would we ever place our identity in these fickle and unpredictable things?
1Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. ~Romans 12:1-2
We live in a fallen world and in fallen bodies. Let’s not put our faith, trust, or identity in anything other than the perfect, infinitely reliable God and His unchangeable nature.